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I have decided to start this blog 18 days after saying yes to my new fiancé and 4 hours after leaving my first ever wedding fair.
I have been planning my wedding since the age of 12. Side note, I should have known aged 12 that if I was planning the ideal length of a bride’s train then a bride probably wasn’t going to be who I met at the altar. But in the short 18 days I’ve spent on this side of a proposal I have found that the wedding business caters to the bride first and foremost, sometimes exclusively.
So what does a groom do in preparation for his promise to his groom? The next step of our chapter will either give us the answer to this question or I’ll have to answer it for myself.
Playing Dress-Up
PUBLISHED ON October 31, 2021
Countdown update: 272 days to go!
Some people might be thinking “my god they’re organised”… meanwhile I’m panicking that it’s almost November… I’m appearing in Panto all Christmas so it’ll be January before we know it… then once we shaken off the winter colds we’ll have the Easter Bunny, April Showers, May Bank Holidays, June Whitfield and it’s time for a July wedding already!
I’ve blogged about groomsmaid dresses at length before (sorry, and congrats if you made it to the end of those posts in one sitting without vodka or a power nap). Well they no longer exist as a superimposed digital fantasy of Sage and Hemsworth (Liam H featured in the mock-ups, see previous blogs if you have time to kill)… no, some of the groomsmaids’ dresses exist in my mum’s spare room wardrobe now too.
It’s all well and good planning you want mismatched dresses hypothetically, but what if you actually don’t like them in the flesh? This worry had the Groomzilla in me twitching with nerves that we’d get too close to the big day and would hate the mismatched theme and have to search for a new idea with two weeks to go and lose all our hair and have to live in a big blue IKEA bag. Ok so maybe not quite that nervous, but still, I wanted to feel secure in our decisions long before it became a panic that we hadn’t made any.
 Stationery with an E not an APUBLISHED ON October 3, 2021 Last weekend I was thoroughly excited to post on Instagram that our new blog would be about invitations and the like… and I typed STATIONARY with an A. Which obviously means ‘not moving’, and which is certainly not how the last few weeks have been. I might have to start wearing a sports bra if wedding planning keeps us this busy. Countdown update: 300 days to go! Read More |  Dressing them up…PUBLISHED ON September 19, 2021 When last I typed, we’d selected a colour scheme, and I suppose this blog is like one of those Disney sequels where they tell the exact same story but from a different perspective. This angle is all about how I (definitely ‘I’ this time as Liam has happily removed himself from outfit planning) played with styles and colours to see how our potential colour schemes would look in practice for the dresses and suits we’d all be wearing. Read More |  Colour my world with sunshine yellow each day (no, we’re not having a yellow wedding!)PUBLISHED ON August 29, 2021 Choosing a colour scheme for a wedding is like choosing a name for a baby. Hear me out. You make one decision months, even years, before the wedding day and you’re potentially stuck with a visual for your wedding that you don’t actually like… choose the wrong name and a kid is stuck as Apple, Stanley or Gertrude until they’re legally able to save themselves and change it. Read More |
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 And we’re back…PUBLISHED ON August 20, 2021 This is the fifth opening sentence I’ve written and the first one I haven’t deleted. Actually that’s a lie, I deleted it once and retyped it as I couldn’t think of an alternative. I’m out of the swing, shall we say. I haven’t written a post since February, mostly because there’s been nothing to write about and since I’ve been bored of typing “we’re not quite ready to hit the ground running yet” then you must be bored of reading it. Read More |  Each Day Is Valentine’s DayPUBLISHED ON February 14, 2021 So ends the chorus of ‘My Funny Valentine’ from Richard Rodgers and Lorenz Hart’s 1937 Broadway musical Babes in Arms. In 2012, I (Jay) appeared in the 2012 revival at the Union Theatre, London, playing the leading role of Valentine White. One London reviewer said “James Lacey is pleasantly plump as a young Mickey Rooney”. Great. This could be one of a myriad of reasons why we don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day. Read More |  Our 1-Year Engagement AnniversaryPUBLISHED ON December 26, 2020 Liam refuses to accept that an engagement anniversary is a real thing, but it’s written in a blog so now it’s real. Yes, a year ago yesterday, Christmas Day 2019, Liam bent the knee and I took the iron throne… no, of course I mean he placed the white gold ring on my finger… well, on the chain around my neck until we got it resized on January 3rd. We’ve been engaged for one year, and what a year eh?! Read More |
 The Wedding PlandemicPUBLISHED ON November 7, 2020 When last I typed we were in a quandary… and before I continue, I recognise (and love) that this opening sentence made me sound like I was writing a letter in a Jane Austin novel. But yes, the quandary: do we prioritise the big wedding or the dream house, or amend expectations and do both! Now, a quandary sounds so negative, but in actual fact it can be quite a positive position to be in: Read More |  The Big CommitmentPUBLISHED ON October 4, 2020 I’m not talking about actually getting married. Yes, that’s a big commitment but we’ve already established that that’s happening. I’ve known it would be happening from the minute he met my mum on board the Holland America Rotterdam cruise ship docked in Liverpool and I thought “he’s passed the test”. We moved in together after 11 months and are already engaged so the commitment of pledging our lives together before gathered friends Read More |  Venue Viewing Number 3…PUBLISHED ON September 19, 2020 It’s our first viewing post-lockdown. And probably our last viewing pre-second-lockdown when Boris sends us home again after spending weeks ignoring the facts and prioritising Tory alcohol tax profits over national health. It’s such a weird experience; wearing a mask to meet someone in a mask to imagine your special day where hopefully no one will be wearing a mask and you’ll be able to kiss the groom without some COVID-warrior telling you off.. Read More |
 The Wedding Diet Starts… mehPUBLISHED ON August 28, 2020 Since Liam and I got together it’s safe to say I’ve let myself go a bit (a lot). In the words of one of my groomsmaids, I got fat and happy. Of course it happens. Once in a relationship, once you get comfortable in that relationship, once you leave the world of dating apps, once you stop scanning bars and clubs looking for attractive men as if you’re Liam Neeson looking for his daughter, once you’re removed from the world of rejection Read More |  Cheers to 3 years, dears!PUBLISHED ON July 11, 2020 We celebrate our anniversary on the date of our first date. About 2 weeks before our first anniversary we moved into our first house together. Now on our third anniversary we’re engaged and planning our wedding, which will probably be around the time of our fifth anniversary. So much has happened in 3 years. Liam was (and still is) a school teacher, though now he’s completed 2 years of training towards becoming a Head Teacher. Read More |  6 months on…PUBLISHED ON June 25, 2020 Well hey there all you cool cats and kittens. Today we have been engaged for 6 months exactly. That’s means it is 6 months since Christmas morning 2019 when Liam got down on one knee and it is 6 months until Christmas 2020 when hopefully we’ll all be able to gather around a fir tree to exchange gifts without worrying about how far we are from each other. It also means that of the 6 months we have been engaged we spent 3 months enjoying wedding fayres Read More |
 Win some, you lose some...Published on March 11, 2020 So far every moment of our planning has been ultimately positive. We’ve enjoyed meeting suppliers without knowing whether they’d fit the plan our venue inspires. We’ve viewed a venue with potential but been inspired to view some other options and look for different things. It’s inevitable, then, that something at some point would not go how we wanted it, and I write this blog with a kind of happiness-hangover coming to terms with the fact the venue ...... Read More |  We got Clicked by Kate!Published on March 6, 2020 When I (Jay) first met Kate I told her she was beautiful long before I’d looked at her photos. This prompted the mothers in law with me at the Lovely Little Wedding Show in the Isla Gladstone Conservatory to fall about laughing and saying “I don’t believe him, what’s he like?”. But she was beautiful, and so were her photos. Wedding photography is like hiring a fancy dress costume. Read More |  Venue Viewing VirginsPublished on February 21, 2020 The ball is rolling. We bit the bullet and viewed our first venue this week. We’ve had a particular venue in our heads for a few weeks and I was determined to see that one and know how we felt after a viewing before confirming any more. The venue was Hinterlands, an event space in the Baltic area of Liverpool and the sister venue of Constellations. Its selling point is its industrial feel and blank canvas aesthetic. Read More |
 Valentine's Day… Meh!Published on February 14, 2020 Roses are red. Violets are Blue. We won’t just celebrate our love because the greetings card, flower and chocolate companies told us to. Are we cynics? Probably. Are we wrong? Probably not. Don’t get us wrong, we love love. And we love each other. And yes, it sounds hypocritical of us to create a wedding blog to celebrate the hype around a wedding and to turn our noses up at the allocated date in the calendar dedicated to showcasing Read More |  Love Stories at the Wedding HousePublished on February 9, 2020 No, we haven’t confirmed our venue or date yet, but yes I am (Jay is) still attending wedding fairs. Also yes, it’s really hard to make any real selections at these fairs until we have the venue and the date solid in our diaries with a giant love heart drawn around it and with a sense of impending dread at the mammoth task of planning the actual events of that date. But how could we resist this fair? Read More |  Hello G Wedding Directory!Published on January 31, 2020 So this is exciting. We are now the featured blog on the G Wedding Directory… I’m Jay and my fiancé, favorite and future husband is Liam. Hi new people! When I started typing this tale it was about documenting the differences between a wedding with two grooms and a conventional bridal wedding, whether that wedding has a bride and groom or two brides. Read More |
 The RingPublished on January 22, 2020 So I think it’s time to talk about the ring. Not just my ring (and yes, I’m avoiding all of the obvious gay innuendos!) but the concept of an engagement ring in general. Read More |  The North West Wedding Show PublisheBliss Events, Exhibition Centre Liverpool – 19.01.20 It’s impossible to be unhappy at a wedding show. This may have only been the second one I’ve attended but you learn pretty quickly that it’s a place full of joy. And why wouldn’t it be? The guest list is a collection of people all focused on preparations for the happiest of days and the services are there to remove the stress of those preparations – aside from the stress of the costs they might incur! Read More |  The Lovely Little Wedding Fair PubliThe Isla Gladstone Conservatory, Anfield, Liverpool – 12.01.20 You never forget your first. The Lovely Little Wedding Fair at the Isla Gladstone Conservatory in Anfield, Liverpool, was my first and as firsts go, this did everything it says on the tin: it was lovely and it was little, which was perfect as I step into the crazy world of wedding fairs (fayre’s? I never know which is correct!). Read More |
 En-gay-gement Published on January 1We have known we would get engaged one day since very early on in our relationship. We also know he was going to be the one to pop the question. He wanted to propose and I wanted to be proposed to. It was a neat fit. I am happy to say that we are a Tinder success story. I’d be even happier if Tinder wanted to sponsor the wedding… anyone know how to sort that out? Read More |
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