I have decided to start this blog 18 days after saying yes to my new fiancé and 4 hours after leaving my first ever wedding fair.
I have been planning my wedding since the age of 12. Side note, I should have known aged 12 that if I was planning the ideal length of a bride’s train then a bride probably wasn’t going to be who I met at the altar. But in the short 18 days I’ve spent on this side of a proposal I have found that the wedding business caters to the bride first and foremost, sometimes exclusively.
So what does a groom do in preparation for his promise to his groom? The next step of our chapter will either give us the answer to this question or I’ll have to answer it for myself.
So ends the chorus of ‘My Funny Valentine’ from Richard Rodgers and Lorenz Hart’s 1937 Broadway musical Babes in Arms. In 2012, I (Jay) appeared in the 2012 revival at the Union Theatre, London, playing the leading role of Valentine White. One London reviewer said “James Lacey is pleasantly plump as a young Mickey Rooney”. Great. This could be one of a myriad of reasons why we don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day.
The point of ‘My Funny Valentine’ is unrequited love for something who maybe isn’t all that remarkable. She sings “your looks are laughable, unphotographable”. Hun, I relate after lockdown 3.0. I’ve not invested in my physical health anywhere near as much as I’ve invested in Amazon. In fact this third lockdown is, it seems for everyone, the hardest. It’s in January when no one has any money or motivation to be jolly after Christmas, there isn’t any sun, and there are new COVID variants popping up like ITV dating shows.
Our 1-Year Engagement Anniversary
PUBLISHED ON December 26, 2020
Liam refuses to accept that an engagement anniversary is a real thing, but it’s written in a blog so now it’s real.
Yes, a year ago yesterday, Christmas Day 2019, Liam bent the knee and I took the iron throne… no, of course I mean he placed the white gold ring on my finger… well, on the chain around my neck until we got it resized on January 3rd. We’ve been engaged for one year, and what a year eh?!
The Wedding Plandemic
PUBLISHED ON November 7, 2020
When last I typed we were in a quandary… and before I continue, I recognise (and love) that this opening sentence made me sound like I was writing a letter in a Jane Austin novel. But yes, the quandary: do we prioritise the big wedding or the dream house, or amend expectations and do both! Now, a quandary sounds so negative, but in actual fact it can be quite a positive position to be in:
The Big Commitment
PUBLISHED ON October 4, 2020
I’m not talking about actually getting married. Yes, that’s a big commitment but we’ve already established that that’s happening. I’ve known it would be happening from the minute he met my mum on board the Holland America Rotterdam cruise ship docked in Liverpool and I thought “he’s passed the test”. We moved in together after 11 months and are already engaged so the commitment of pledging our lives together before gathered friends
Venue Viewing Number 3…
PUBLISHED ON September 19, 2020
It’s our first viewing post-lockdown. And probably our last viewing pre-second-lockdown when Boris sends us home again after spending weeks ignoring the facts and prioritising Tory alcohol tax profits over national health.
It’s such a weird experience; wearing a mask to meet someone in a mask to imagine your special day where hopefully no one will be wearing a mask and you’ll be able to kiss the groom without some COVID-warrior telling you off..
The Wedding Diet Starts… meh
PUBLISHED ON August 28, 2020
Since Liam and I got together it’s safe to say I’ve let myself go a bit (a lot). In the words of one of my groomsmaids, I got fat and happy.
Of course it happens. Once in a relationship, once you get comfortable in that relationship, once you leave the world of dating apps, once you stop scanning bars and clubs looking for attractive men as if you’re Liam Neeson looking for his daughter, once you’re removed from the world of rejection
Cheers to 3 years, dears!
PUBLISHED ON July 11, 2020
We celebrate our anniversary on the date of our first date. About 2 weeks before our first anniversary we moved into our first house together. Now on our third anniversary we’re engaged and planning our wedding, which will probably be around the time of our fifth anniversary.
So much has happened in 3 years. Liam was (and still is) a school teacher, though now he’s completed 2 years of training towards becoming a Head Teacher.
6 months on…
PUBLISHED ON June 25, 2020
Well hey there all you cool cats and kittens.
Today we have been engaged for 6 months exactly. That’s means it is 6 months since Christmas morning 2019 when Liam got down on one knee and it is 6 months until Christmas 2020 when hopefully we’ll all be able to gather around a fir tree to exchange gifts without worrying about how far we are from each other.
It also means that of the 6 months we have been engaged we spent 3 months enjoying wedding fayres
Win some, you lose some...
Published on March 11, 2020
So far every moment of our planning has been ultimately positive. We’ve enjoyed meeting suppliers without knowing whether they’d fit the plan our venue inspires. We’ve viewed a venue with potential but been inspired to view some other options and look for different things.
It’s inevitable, then, that something at some point would not go how we wanted it, and I write this blog with a kind of happiness-hangover coming to terms with the fact the venue ......
We got Clicked by Kate!
Published on March 6, 2020
When I (Jay) first met Kate I told her she was beautiful long before I’d looked at her photos. This prompted the mothers in law with me at the Lovely Little Wedding Show in the Isla Gladstone Conservatory to fall about laughing and saying “I don’t believe him, what’s he like?”. But she was beautiful, and so were her photos.
Wedding photography is like hiring a fancy dress costume.
Venue Viewing Virgins
Published on February 21, 2020
The ball is rolling. We bit the bullet and viewed our first venue this week. We’ve had a particular venue in our heads for a few weeks and I was determined to see that one and know how we felt after a viewing before confirming any more.
The venue was Hinterlands, an event space in the Baltic area of Liverpool and the sister venue of Constellations. Its selling point is its industrial feel and blank canvas aesthetic.
Valentine's Day… Meh!
Published on February 14, 2020
Roses are red.
Violets are Blue.
We won’t just celebrate our love because the greetings card, flower and chocolate companies told us to.
Are we cynics? Probably. Are we wrong? Probably not. Don’t get us wrong, we love love. And we love each other. And yes, it sounds hypocritical of us to create a wedding blog to celebrate the hype around a wedding and to turn our noses up at the allocated date in the calendar dedicated to showcasing
Love Stories at the Wedding House
Published on February 9, 2020
No, we haven’t confirmed our venue or date yet, but yes I am (Jay is) still attending wedding fairs. Also yes, it’s really hard to make any real selections at these fairs until we have the venue and the date solid in our diaries with a giant love heart drawn around it and with a sense of impending dread at the mammoth task of planning the actual events of that date. But how could we resist this fair?
Hello G Wedding Directory!
Published on January 31, 2020
So this is exciting. We are now the featured blog on the G Wedding Directory… I’m Jay and my fiancé, favorite and future husband is Liam. Hi new people!
When I started typing this tale it was about documenting the differences between a wedding with two grooms and a conventional bridal wedding, whether that wedding has a bride and groom or two brides.
Published on January 22, 2020
So I think it’s time to talk about the ring. Not just my ring (and yes, I’m avoiding all of the obvious gay innuendos!) but the concept of an engagement ring in general.
The North West Wedding Show Publishe
Bliss Events, Exhibition Centre Liverpool – 19.01.20
It’s impossible to be unhappy at a wedding show. This may have only been the second one I’ve attended but you learn pretty quickly that it’s a place full of joy. And why wouldn’t it be? The guest list is a collection of people all focused on preparations for the happiest of days and the services are there to remove the stress of those preparations – aside from the stress of the costs they might incur!
The Lovely Little Wedding Fair Publi
The Isla Gladstone Conservatory, Anfield, Liverpool – 12.01.20
You never forget your first.
The Lovely Little Wedding Fair at the Isla Gladstone Conservatory in Anfield, Liverpool, was my first and as firsts go, this did everything it says on the tin: it was lovely and it was little, which was perfect as I step into the crazy world of wedding fairs (fayre’s? I never know which is correct!).
En-gay-gement Published on January 1
We have known we would get engaged one day since very early on in our relationship. We also know he was going to be the one to pop the question. He wanted to propose and I wanted to be proposed to. It was a neat fit.
I am happy to say that we are a Tinder success story. I’d be even happier if Tinder wanted to sponsor the wedding… anyone know how to sort that out?
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